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“Shadow” has become a buzzword meaning “everything bad about you.” This is not so. Although your entry point to real shadow work may be looking at your “character flaws,” or areas where you need to grow, the nitty-gritty work of shadow is unearthing and discovering what is nonconscious.
The fugitive self, our hidden gold, the things that won’t let us rest, our traditions and lineages—cobwebbed and musty—are in some cases booby-trapped to prevent extraction and exploitation.
It’s my experience that the shadow doesn’t stop coming up and rearing its ugly head. It’s here to stay, because it was formed by your early examples of what adulthood looked like. What you don’t have to do is take direction from it. The goal is to see clearly what it’s doing to your relationships and progress beyond the usual internal and relational dramas.
“Shadow” is a term for the discarded aspects of our personalities within that inform our lives. It offers the potential to reveal what we previously thought was unsuitable, so unsuitable that we imprisoned it and forgot it.
You can opt to leave the curtains drawn and find ways to medicate what still hurts. You can refuse to forgive yourself and perpetuate the cycles of toxic shame. You can deny and protect, in order to save your self-image or shield others who have hurt you. You can conserve energy by not seeking to fix what isn’t visibly broken.
Most of us are addicted to the belief that we are inadequate—it keeps us striving to be better, and isn’t that a good thing? Believing we are inadequate is exhausting and hard on our nervous systems.
A nonconscious shadow holds us hostage, victimizes us, or causes us to seek control through domination. We each contain all of the weapons of violence imaginable, right inside of us. This can be a frightening thought, yet it promises to re-empower us to grow beyond harming ourselves and others.
The key to working with your shadow is to accept that you have one, and get to know it. See it for what it is and nurture it as your child while you build adult techniques for self-protection.
I overcome its concerns by taking breaks, examining my fears, and reassuring it. Sometimes change is very slow and incremental, sometimes it shifts with the pang of new awareness.
Deciding to face, once and for all, the contents of shadow can be a bit like taking on a part-time job. Tending to ourselves requires space, time, and a gentle bedside manner.
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Goldmining the Shadows by Pixie Lighthorse presents key insights from the contemplative tradition. The 10 passages above capture the essential teachings.
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Key Passages: Highlights 1, 3, and 10 are particularly representative.
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