(Sexual energy as daily life force and hormonal vitality)
We call this arousal “getting horny” and snicker as if it were some illicit or juvenile experience. In fact, this arousal is the expansion of our sexual energy, and it is essential to our life and health. According to the Tao, each of us needs to feel aroused—to feel our life-giving sexual energy—every day because when we become aroused, our body produces more sexual hormones.
The reason sex sells is that we are drawn to images that stimulate our sexual energy and sexual hormones. It is extremely liberating for multi-orgasmic men to realize that they have access to this rejuvenating sexual energy all day every day. Once we learn to circulate our sexual energy, as we explain in chapter 3, we no longer have to wait for sexual encounters to have access to it.
Once men learn to become multi-orgasmic and to circulate their sexual energy, they are able to cultivate and transform this sexual energy, giving them a whole new sense of freedom to feel sexual energy only when and where they want.
By learning to slow down and deepen your breathing, you will learn to control your arousal rate and to revel in orgasms without rushing over into ejaculation.
Even once you have learned to be multi-orgasmic, don’t forget to still breathe deeply. Deep breathing will help you to circulate your sexual energy throughout your body, which will expand your orgasms and reduce any pressure that you experience when you delay or avoid ejaculating.
(Taoist guidelines for ejaculation frequency by age)
A man of twenty can ejaculate once every four days. A man of thirty can ejaculate once every eight days. A man of forty can ejaculate once every ten days. A man of fifty can ejaculate once every twenty days. A man of sixty should not ejaculate.
People who are in touch with their sexual energy will have more energy to pursue their goals and dreams in the rest of their lives.
Better than Chocolate, Better than Coffee: Expanding Your Orgasms and Your Energy
(Moving chi gently: softness, focus, and the nature of ching-chi)
Remember: you are not pushing or pulling the chi; you are simply shifting your focus to another place. This is very important because you do not want to force the energy, which can cause you to hurt yourself. Energy is very powerful, and you need to move it slowly and gently. In fact, it is much easier to move energy if your body is soft and relaxed than if it is rigid and tense.
Sexual Energy Sexual energy, or ching-chi (pronounced ching-chee), is a very powerful form of bioelectric energy. When you get aroused, or horny, it is this spreading of sexual energy that you are feeling in your body. As we have discussed above, Healing Love is based on developing the ability to cultivate this sexual energy for your pleasure, health, and spiritual growth.
The Inner Smile
We tend to think that when we are happy we smile. But there is compelling research that suggests the opposite is also true. When we smile, we feel happier as well, even if we did not begin by feeling good. All of us have experienced the power of a smile: we can recall a time when we were sad or sick and someone, possibly even a stranger, gave us a big smile, and immediately we felt better. The Taoists have long known the profound energetic and healing power of smiling.
Inner Smile—bringing energy down to your abdomen helps you empty energy from your head, so that it can be replenished with sexual energy rising along the spine.